courageous and kismet: tweet your demons

welcome to the “courageous and kismet” series here on simply woz! i’m excited to feature guest posts from amazing people who know that telling their stories can be healing, courageous, and kismet. enjoy!

this week is brought to you by the amazing ellie di:

I’ve been repeatedly told that I’m too negative on social media.  That I’m sharing too much of my dark places, my anger, my fear.  That it’s scaring people away and damaging my business.

But I haven’t stopped doing it.  Even though I know there’s wisdom in those warnings, I keep tweeting about panic weasels and being a Grumpasaurus.

Because stories are important.

Whether they’re about darkness or light, pain or healing, sadness or joy, these intensely personal stories, told out in public and without shame, let others know that they’re not alone in their struggles, that someone else has walked that path and survived.

And telling them heals me, too, as the storyteller, the act of translating feelings into words acting as a catalyst: being a conduit for a beautiful story makes the teller more beautiful.

When I share my darkness, it’s me reaching out, looking for help, comfort, support, and guidance.  I’m cracking open the shell to let light in.  I tell the story because I need to know I’m not alone, that it’s not forever, that people still love me when I’m sad.

It’s also to remind others of the same thing.

By sharing my No Good, Very Bad Days, I’m letting people know that I get itI know what it’s like to wake up angry and not know why, to cry at a cat food commercial, to hold terror in your heart because of what you saw when you balanced the checkbook.

When I’m open with my struggles, I show my tribe that, when the the time comes for them to hide in bed and eat ice cream all day, I can support them because I know what they’re going through.  I’ve been there and survived.

I talk about depression, fear, panic, and shame in public because they’re a part of me.  They’re not something to hide or lock away in emabrrassment.  If I did that, I’d be lying by omission.  There’s no honesty in that, no healing, no connection.

Wherever I am in the moment, that’s what’s true.  That’s the story that needs to be shared right now.  There’s always someone who needs to hear it.

Ellie Di is The Headologist: Self-rediscoverer, attitude adjuster, compassionate critical thinker, spiritual nomad, and compulsive scribbler.  She spends her days working
one-on-one with self-aware, funky people (like you!) yearning to set their authentic Self free through owning flaws, selfishness, and talking to the voices in your head.  You can visit Ellie on Twitter and Facebook, or, if that’s not enough for you, head to The Chalk, the online headology community.  If you need even more goodness, sign up for her monthly ‘zine and get a 30-minute free headology session.  Cos that’s how she rolls.

11 Responses to courageous and kismet: tweet your demons

  1. I love you Ellie Di! I love you because of your honesty, not in spite of it. There is nothing worse than being connected with someone whose life seems to be perfect – because that’s intimidating. The last thing I want when I read someone’s blog is permanent jolliness – it makes me question their authenticity. So, carry on letting us know when you are a grumpasaurus – it gives me hope that my ‘not so perfect’ life can move in the direction I’d like it to – and that I’m ok just as I am!

  2. I follow two types of blogs – those that inspire me to be happy (and/or creative), and those that remind me it’s OK and normal to be a grumpy-face, or even a PMS monster, on occasion. TRUTH. That’s what people like. True joy to inspire us, and true misery to know we’re not alone.

  3. YESSS! Ellie, you absolutely rock!! You know, I tend to find *more* connection in struggles and raw-pain-sharing than I do with constant happiness-sharing I think there is always room for both. Because we ALL experience the whole spectrum of emotions and it’s ALL important. As someone who is an optimist/idealist, but who also struggles with depression and anxiety, i very much resonate with and appreciate everyone you’ve expressed here. Please keep expressing everything that’s in your heart, especially the messy stuff! Sending much love xo.

    (ps- thanks Woz for posting! 🙂 )

    -sharon

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