welcome to the “courageous and kismet” series here on simply woz! i’m excited to feature guest posts from amazing people who know that telling their stories can be healing, courageous, and kismet. enjoy!
this week is brought to you by the amazing ellie di:
I’ve been repeatedly told that I’m too negative on social media. That I’m sharing too much of my dark places, my anger, my fear. That it’s scaring people away and damaging my business.
But I haven’t stopped doing it. Even though I know there’s wisdom in those warnings, I keep tweeting about panic weasels and being a Grumpasaurus.
Because stories are important.
Whether they’re about darkness or light, pain or healing, sadness or joy, these intensely personal stories, told out in public and without shame, let others know that they’re not alone in their struggles, that someone else has walked that path and survived.
And telling them heals me, too, as the storyteller, the act of translating feelings into words acting as a catalyst: being a conduit for a beautiful story makes the teller more beautiful.
When I share my darkness, it’s me reaching out, looking for help, comfort, support, and guidance. I’m cracking open the shell to let light in. I tell the story because I need to know I’m not alone, that it’s not forever, that people still love me when I’m sad.
It’s also to remind others of the same thing.
By sharing my No Good, Very Bad Days, I’m letting people know that I get it. I know what it’s like to wake up angry and not know why, to cry at a cat food commercial, to hold terror in your heart because of what you saw when you balanced the checkbook.
When I’m open with my struggles, I show my tribe that, when the the time comes for them to hide in bed and eat ice cream all day, I can support them because I know what they’re going through. I’ve been there and survived.
I talk about depression, fear, panic, and shame in public because they’re a part of me. They’re not something to hide or lock away in emabrrassment. If I did that, I’d be lying by omission. There’s no honesty in that, no healing, no connection.
Wherever I am in the moment, that’s what’s true. That’s the story that needs to be shared right now. There’s always someone who needs to hear it.
Ellie Di is The Headologist: Self-rediscoverer, attitude adjuster, compassionate critical thinker, spiritual nomad, and compulsive scribbler. She spends her days working
one-on-one with self-aware, funky people (like you!) yearning to set their authentic Self free through owning flaws, selfishness, and talking to the voices in your head. You can visit Ellie on Twitter and Facebook, or, if that’s not enough for you, head to The Chalk, the online headology community. If you need even more goodness, sign up for her monthly ‘zine and get a 30-minute free headology session. Cos that’s how she rolls.